Why More Filipinas DON’T Marry Local Men?

The desire of many Filipinas to marry foreign men instead of Filipino men has become a growing trend in the Philippines. Why do Filipinas choose foreigners over local men?

A significant factor causing more Pinays to choose to date and marry foreign men happens when local men often take them for granted. The abundance of single women in the Philippines leads many local men to believe they have a wide range of potential love matches available, meaning seriousness sometimes takes a backseat to playing the field. This mindset can lead to a lack of appreciation and commitment, pushing Filipino women towards seeking relationships with foreign men who may be a better bachelor because most will value them more.

Through interviews conducted by Filipina matchmakers, individuals like Je-Gil and Joandel share their personal stories, highlighting experiences that influenced their pursuit to date beyond borders. Je-Gil's betrayal and Joandel's negative dating experience with the father of her children have made them consider Western men as good potential husbands. There exists a belief that dating Western men seems to bring better bachelors to the Philippines, with the promise of a fulfilling relationship continues to influence the choices of many Filipino women.

Philippine law and culture does not recognize divorce, which makes Filipinas highly selective in choosing life partners. Asian women understand that marriage promises a lifelong commitment, and as a result, take the time to get to know potential partners before making a decision. Instead of rushing into marriage, it's not uncommon for modern women to consider cohabitation as an initial step, even among very traditional Filipinas. This approach allows Pinays to assess compatibility and the long-term potential of the relationship before committing to marriage in the Philippines.

Filipinas perceive marriage beyond the union between husband and wife but also a commitment to the institution of marriage itself. Pinays seek devoted and reliable husbands who are willing to uphold the responsibilities associated with a successful marriage. This preference leads more Filipinas to view foreign men, particularly those who express an interest in finding a tradwife, as ideal matches who align with their own expectations.

For the tribe of men who seek real connection with family-oriented women in modern society, Filipinas display these qualities and more.